Experts say right now could be the perfect time to spark a meaningful connection.
DEAR DR. JENN,
I am newly single and just joined a few dating apps. This pandemic has made me realize I would really like to find my soulmate, but I feel clueless when it comes to setting up my dating profile to find the right guy вЂ” how much is too much to put out there? What kinds of photos should I use? On top of it all, I’m pretty conservative when it comes to social distancing and going out, so I feel like I need to choose my suitors carefully. All of it is giving me a lot of stress. Where do I start? вЂ”Looking for Love In the Time of Coronavirus
Many relationships have become a casualty of the virus вЂ” just look at all the celeb breakups in the past few months. The good news is that the online dating world is more active than ever right now. (Recently, Match Group which owns Tinder, OK Cupid, Hinge, and Match, reported a surge in new subscribers.)
While the virus has changed the way we are dating, courting, and getting to know each other, if you play your social distancing cards right, this could actually be an ideal time to meet your mate. The virus has forced us to really spend the time getting to know each other before taking the risk of a socially distanced, masked date, and it’s also put the idea of getting physical too soon off the table. daddyhunt visitors In other words, someone has really got to be special. This all works to your benefit, especially coming off of a breakup.
So, dating apps: Some are more known as hook-up sites, whereas others are more geared towards people looking for a relationship. Do a little homework about the sites you’re on (by asking other single friends or good old Google), to make sure they cater to the type of relationship you are looking for. Once you determine you are working with legit relationship-oriented sites, it’s time to hone your profile skills.
Here is what I recommend for setting up your dating profile and finding success with online dating.
1. Mention Your Quarantine Status
A new dating profile trend is actually listing your viral or antibody status. Much like a guy advertising in his bio that he’s completely clean of STDs, this information coming from a stranger probably shouldn’t be trusted. Plus, not only is the accuracy of antibody tests still under question, but a positive COVID test result isn’t always a guarantee. (You can be tested for COVID on Monday and then pick up the virus on Tuesday and walk around thinking you are negative.)
So while I don’t recommend sharing viral status info, I would recommend sharing your quarantine status. You want to find someone who is on the same page as you вЂ” and is prepared for a long drawn out courtship before there might be any physical contact or even a distanced date. Sharing this information will help to keep expectations in line and also screen for compatibility.
2. Include the *Right* Kinds of Photos
Dating apps are a highly visual medium for dating where decisions happen quickly. Having the right number of quality photos (between three and five) that are eye-catching and attract the kind of partner you are hoping to find are key. According to Lauren Frances, an online dating consultant and author of Dating, Mating & Manhandling: The Ornithological Guide to Men, вЂњHaving current, clear, and alluring photos are the number one secret to success. Fuzzy, out of date, and вЂmoodyвЂ™ pics are a no-no.вЂќ If it’s been a while since you were on the apps, be sure to change up your photos to reflect who you are today.
Here, some other types of photos to avoid on your dating profile.
So, what does that leave? Focus on shots that show off your interests. For example, if you are a runner, include one of you crossing the finish line. Not only will this attract potential partners with similar interests, but it also gives suitors an easy conversation starter.